I think that being a loser is not simply losing. It's a state of conciousness in which people think that losing is their way of achieving victory over "the majority of people which is stupid".
"Oh, most people hate me, but, for they are stupid, they take the good for the bad and thus, being hated is a proof for me that I'm actually good."
They are proud of the fact that they fail to achieve whatever they tried to achieve. One of them told me that he even didn't want to do something to improve his life. "So why then" - I replied - "did you try to do this at all"? A second after, I noticed that he blushed. On one hand, I made him feel very uncomfortable. On the other hand, I'm sure that letting losers understand that they are nobody and nothing helps them to stop being nobody and nothing.
Showing posts with label psychology. Show all posts
Showing posts with label psychology. Show all posts
Friday, November 9, 2007
Tuesday, November 6, 2007
Something about what we call "personal".
In the life of every human being there is something that should be described as "personal". Not because a person feels too shy about it he (I will further say "he" meaning "a human being in general, male or female") doesn't want to make it public. And also, not because a person is afraid to dishonor oneself he doesn't want to talk about things in his life that he considers as personal. It is because that these are such things that can be understood only in the context of what can be known by the only one to whom these personal things are related.
The same considerations can be applied to what can be called "interpersonal", "only between me and you". For example, sexual relations, heart-to-heart talks... And, of course, nobody who respects oneself will have such relations with people he doesn't respect.
And here's one more notice: the notice that regards drinking. It's known by the many that alcohol destroys the interpersonal barriers between people who drink together: they start looking not only into each other's eyes, but into each other's souls.
And this too can be looked at as some kind of a more intimate interpersonal communication, and, like in case of sexual relationship, not only at conscious, but also at subconscious level (except that at physical level there is not that much communication).
This reasoning can be taken into account in event that somebody says "I won't drink with him|her".
By the way, it is interesting to notice that drinking alone is looked at as masturbating under the blanket.
The same considerations can be applied to what can be called "interpersonal", "only between me and you". For example, sexual relations, heart-to-heart talks... And, of course, nobody who respects oneself will have such relations with people he doesn't respect.
And here's one more notice: the notice that regards drinking. It's known by the many that alcohol destroys the interpersonal barriers between people who drink together: they start looking not only into each other's eyes, but into each other's souls.
And this too can be looked at as some kind of a more intimate interpersonal communication, and, like in case of sexual relationship, not only at conscious, but also at subconscious level (except that at physical level there is not that much communication).
This reasoning can be taken into account in event that somebody says "I won't drink with him|her".
By the way, it is interesting to notice that drinking alone is looked at as masturbating under the blanket.
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